Loving yourself is a solution to many problems. But how to do that? Worry not! Do you know the secret to success, satisfaction and a happy life? Self-love is the secret to all this! It is the best gift you can give yourself. People who love themselves life a satisfied and happy life. Have you heard people say you can’t love others until you love yourself? Or don’t expect others to love you until you love yourself. Either way, you have to love yourself and that is the secret to a happy and satisfied life!
But how can we do that? Love our own self? Like a parent loves its child? Like we love our most prized possessions? How? We all know that our parents think we are the nicest children on earth, but their thinking is sugar coated with a heavy layer of parental love! It’s very difficult to think like that about us.
When you feel hard to think good things about yourself it means you don’t believe in yourself and its time to build a positive self imagine and love yourself.
Here’s how you can do that!
Change your thoughts, change your world!
Self-perception is the way we think of ourselves. It includes the way we look, walk, talk and do anything! Unfortunately a big problem with teens is that their self-perception is very poor. In other words, they often under estimate themselves! They don’t know their true potential. So if you think your problem is that you need to change it! For that make a list of all your habits or attributes that people appreciate. It can be your smile, your warm personality, your good looks, your ability to make friends easily, your special talent or anything else. Once you have the list in front of yourself, read it and try to realize that there is something special in you for which people appreciate and applaud you! Everyone has something special and so do you! All you need to do is realize that and change your weakened self-perception! Once you do that, the world will seem a better place to live!
Forget your flaws for a while!
The key here is to love yourself so much that you will not even have enough time to think of the negative things. But the reality is that not everyone is perfect. We all have our flaws and the solution is to be acceptable of our own flaws. When you love yourself of all the strong points that you have and be acceptable of your own flaws, you will have a sense of gratitude towards life. Not only will you only love yourself, you will also start to love other people too and be acceptable of their flaws too.
Struggle to improve.
If there is something in you, which you don’t like and cant bear try to remove that. Try to improve yourself. It could be anything. For example the way you talk and your communication skills. If that is the problem then practice talking. Practice makes a man perfect and in this case a woman too! So practice and you will improve. Likewise, if you don’t like the way you look because of the fact that you are fat, and then try to get rid of those few extra pounds to love yourself. If may take in a little effort but you will gain a lot of satisfaction. And that is what you need to love yourself and live a satisfied life!
Counteract Negative or Critical Thoughts About Yourself!
Pen down the negative ideas and perceptions in your head. Try to remember who said that to you (or said something of that nature). Then write something opposite to what you have written, one by one. The counter messages should be convincing and loving. If you’re having issues in doing so and find it hard, see if you can find a close friend who could help or get into the mood and then try.
Dropping negative attitudes goes a long way towards helping you with almost every problem in life. A positive approach can help you to love yourself too! You will feel well about yourself and others if you look at things in a more positive light. So try to adopt this approach!
Appreciate yourself at every achievement of yours. No matter how small it is, its an achievement nonetheless and hence deserves applaud and appreciation! Make sure that you give yourself special treatment at success and even small achievements. Be proud of them so that the world knows you have done something important and special!
Life truly is very hectic and we hardly get time for ourselves. But that doesn’t mean you keep neglecting yourself. So take out time from your hectic schedule and listen to your heart. Do something special for yourself and pamper yourself. It can be anything; drinking hot coffee at midnight, listening to soft music, getting a message, going to spa or simply sitting outside while its raining! Just make sure you do pamper yourself once in a while!
So go ahead. Love yourself. Be good to yourself. Treat yourself well. Replenish yourself. You will discover that, the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to give love to others – and the more others will want to be around you and give love back to you. This is a win – win situation. Loving yourself will ultimately benefit the lives of others you encounter, as well as your own life.